Remember, It’s OK: Loss for Teens

Remember, It’s OK: Loss of a Partner

The loss of your partner, your love, your other half, is heartbreaking. Nothing prepares us for the loss of one we deeply love. In the first book in the Remember series, we help you deal with your loss and the tumultuous emotions circling around. You will find resonance, comfort and validation in these pages. This book is written for you.

The book weaves "Moments" (written in first person, like a personal diary entry of thoughts and feelings) into a spectrum of six colours, as a road map forward. Each "Moment” has a companion response of support which could be a friend, family member, colleague or therapist. There are also blank pages to give space for personal expression and reflection.

This book is also for those who are supporting a friend or loved one after the loss of their partner. It will help you find the right words to say, when to speak no words at all, when to comfort, when to stand back. We all need to understand the grief journey with gentleness. Attempt to take on the role of “companion”, we show you how in these pages.

ISBN: 978-1-990336-33-1

“I have had many losses but nothing could have prepared me for the sudden loss of my husband of twenty-four years. I found myself widowed at the age of forty-six and I felt out of place with no where to turn. Opening the pages of Remember, It’s OK was like sitting down with an old friend.
Reading the moments was very visceral, they made me feel as though I was heard and understood. Those were my words, my feelings! I related to it instantly and because of that, it immediately earned my trust. I felt the safety of it wrap around me.
This book is like no other grief book I have read. I believe it’s not something you just read. I experienced it. It is a constant caring companion. Something I know will grow with me throughout my journey. It honours my grief by giving me ideas on ways to express and work through my loss. There is something so powerful about the visual relation to colours that makes this book so unique. It evokes emotion and I felt a progression as I moved through the colours. Almost like a rainbow I began to feel hopeful that something beautiful can grow out of the pain and loss. I wish I had had this book earlier in my journey.
The blank pages where it offers and encourages you to draw, create and put self care to paper are very healing. I know it will be a book I will gift often to others. Its very title kept subliminally reminding me it’s okay, when I didn’t even know I needed to keep hearing that. People in mourning so need to keep hearing that!
Thank you to the authors for bringing this gentle healing hug of a book to the world. It is so needed!
— Rachel V

Inside: Remember, It’s OK: Loss of a Partner

Foreward

Although we all unconsciously know death is always present, lurking, on the periphery, biding its time to enter our lives, we are content to keep it out of our awareness. Nothing can prepare us for the loss of one who is deeply loved.

Remember, It’s OK is a testament to the power of love and the innate healing potential within each one of us. I loved the time and space made to honour grief, the searing honesty and the ascent back to life and a reforged self. This book provides us with a way forward and allows us to move through all the tumultuous emotions grief throws our way. The authors use six colours as the roadmap forward, one that calls to our emotional selves; from Red through to Pale Blue. They show there is light at the end of the journey.

Remember, It’s OK, doesn’t allow us to short change the all-encompassing reach of death and loss. We begin to understand that it is not only the loss of our loved one, but loss of a Life and the Self, that no longer exist. We are uplifted by the words of the support person; sparse, compassionate, understanding, containing seeds of hope.

Remember, It’s OK, is a gift, a gem, for all who have lost a loved one. It is an enlightening guide for friends, colleagues, family members, therapists and those in the helping professions, allowing them entry into a world that can only be known by those who have been unwilling travelers in this terrain of loss. After reading this beautifully written book, it will no longer be possible or even desirable, to dismiss, shrink and relegate grief into a small manageable package.

Having worked as a therapist for twenty years, Grief has made many trips through my office door. I wish Remember, It’s OK, would have been available for all of us: my clients, their friends, family, colleagues and myself. This book is an inspirational demonstration of allowing, welcoming, and being supportive of whatever presents itself during the grief process. It is a beautiful dance between a courageous griever, the wise and talented companion and the Love lost. There are no timelines, no right or wrong, simply a person and deep honouring. A process that doesn’t limit itself to survival but creates opportunities for profound healing, growth and transformation.

I hope you find this book as beautiful, heart wrenching and ultimately triumphant, as I did.

Sincerely,

Karen Harrington

Psychotherapist

(B.A., M.A. Psychology/Grief Counselling)

Remember, It’s OK: Loss of a Partner

“﻿I have had many losses but nothing could have prepared me for the sudden loss of my husband of twenty-four years. I found myself widowed at the age of forty-six and I felt out of place with no where to turn. Opening the pages of Remember, It’s OK was like sitting down with an old friend.

Inside: Remember, It’s OK: Loss of a Partner

Foreward

“I have had many losses but nothing could have prepared me for the sudden loss of my husband of twenty-four years. I found myself widowed at the age of forty-six and I felt out of place with no where to turn. Opening the pages of Remember, It’s OK was like sitting down with an old friend.